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Sometimes our parents say things like “when I die you will feel so much regret” but sometimes I wanna ask, what if your child dies first? Will you have no regrets? Were you kind to your child while he/she was alive?

These words from parents are so manipulative, screws up with children’s minds, At times It’s used for good to manipulate our child into taking a path that will guide them to a better life but sometimes it’s to manipulate them into accepting toxicity from parents no matter how bad “DEAL WITH IT CAUSE I AM YOUR PARENT AND YOU ARE JUST MY CHILD.”a

Case to case basis, but this really isn’t a good way to raise a child. I know someone whose life went downhill, did drugs, went mentally crazy after his mother died because those manipulative words were used on him for choosing someone who he loves (that his mother didn’t like.) 

It’s so sad that some parents are making sure to inflict MORE pain when they die by saying “When I die, you will regret it” as if the pain of losing them won’t already be unbearable for their child.

A loving parent will want to make sure their child will survive the pain they will feel after their parents death. Not make sure they feel even more horrible.

I know there are parents who are still mending from their own parents who mentally abused them. Take a deep breath and fight off all the toxic traits you may have absorbed. You are not responsible for the damage your ancestors may have done to you but you are and will be responsible for the damage you will pass on to your children and their children.

We have to heal before having children so that we will be ready to raise them using Love, not Fear.

Note: To not take your child for granted and they will cherish you beyond your last breath. That is how I believe you will live an eternal life. You will live on through the good memories you will leave your child, and the good deeds you will influence them to do.. because this will unendingly be passed on to every person they will touch until the end of time. Maybe this is a part of what He means by living an eternal life.

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